Peace Over Revenge
Hey y’all! Hope all is well in your worlds. & if it’s not, I hope it gets better soon.
I wanted to talk to to y’all today about something that has been instrumental in my healing journey— Choosing peace over revenge.
Let me tell you, it has NOT been easy. There are sooo many times when my first thought is, “Do them how they did you!” But as I’ve matured, I’ve discovered that getting revenge is actually the easy route in life.
Think about it, it takes so much more effort to do the right thing.. which is— Let karma/the universe/God do the work for you. That requires patience and so many of us are lacking in that department.
Being in a place of peace is so much more rewarding. Life is hard enough as it is. Why carry around all the negative energy of trying to get revenge on folks? Especially when we already have our fair share of negativity coming our way in life! (Let’s face it, no one is perfect and we’ve all wronged someone at some point in our lives.)
Peace is definitely not cheap, but it’s worth it!! We’re all just trying to make the most of our borrowed time so why make things worse by seeking revenge on people who are already miserable??
Unsure on how to transition into a state of peace? Here’s my advice—
Pray about it. Seriously.. And be specific in your prayers. Example: “God, please help me to choose peace over getting revenge on my ex-friend who stole from me.” Being specific (about most things in life) should leave no room for confusion about what you want/expect.
Find a therapist. A therapist that you feel you can trust and have a good rapport with. So many of us are walking around carrying loads of issues/traumas that do not serve us! Put the baggage down baby!!! Talk it out. Process it. Find healthy coping mechanisms.
Be mindful in how you respond to situations. Know how to react in a healthy way when someone has truly crossed the line. Know the difference in when you’re overreacting and when someone really did have you f*cked up! (I’m still working on this one too. It’s HARD for us fire signs y’all!)
For me, choosing peace has been a little easier because I’ve watched Bertha (my beautiful, black queen of a mother) do it my entire life. She always takes the high road.. even in situations where I felt like she should be burning some shit down. In the moments where I’m saying in my head, “I’ll knock all this shit over!!”, I often think about how graceful my mother is and how she always chooses peace. If you don’t have an example like I do, then it’s up to you to be the example.
I’ll be honest though.. I know there will still be times when I’m going to choose revenge over peace. I’m human!! We are all… but I can assure you that I’m going to choose the type of revenge that is not going to hurt anyone else. My revenge is only going elevate me.
Until next time; Be YOU. Do YOU. LOVE YOU 💜
