Let The Magic Begin
Hey y’all!! Hope you all are doing well out there!
As for me, I recently turned 32 (4/14. Big Aries energy!) Normally I drop a post before my birthday, but this year I decided to wait.
This is my “Magic Year” (Magic Johnson was #32, hence— Magic year.) I could not be more excited!! 31 was such a pivotal year in my growth journey. I learned so much about myself and a lot about the people around me too.
31 brought me A LOT of tears and humility, but it also brought me a lot of smiles and laughter. It’s weird because I was the unhappiest, yet happiest that I’ve ever been. (I know I’m sounding crazy right now, but bare with me, I’m going somewhere with this)
The first half of 31 was HARDDDD! I struggled mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, and financially. I was learning how to love myself again. I mean really love myself..not just my looks, but the inner workings of me. I was learning how to navigate what needed to be prioritized in my life and figuring out that there was no shame in putting myself above everyone else. I was learning to be more disciplined with my finances (I’m proud of the progress I’ve made in this area.) I was learning how to set boundaries and stick to them. The first half of 31 was an uphill battle to say the least.
The second half of 31 was a little bit easier in some aspects, but it’s where I was really putting the work in. I made more of an effort to put “No is a full ass sentence!” into action. I started going back to therapy in order to hold myself accountable. I did more things that made me happy and less of what didn’t. I even made a decision to pack up and move out of state for a little bit.
So for this “Magic Year”, I decided to keep up my momentum by continuing to do what makes me happy & focus on my growth.
Normally this is where I would give you a list of things to do / steps to take towards something.. but I’m gona switch it up a little today. Instead, here are some things I’ve stopped doing / am stopping (& maybe you need to do the same)—
Giving people access to me that don’t deserve it. I was always the person to give multiple chances. Not anymore. I’ve learned that I can wish you all the best, but still wish to keep you from being in my life.
Checking in on people who never seem to check in on me. This is pretty self-explanatory. Why continue wasting your time with people who don’t reciprocate it?
Helping those who only seem to reach out to me when they need something. This is a hard one for me because I know that helping people is one of the things I’m called to do.. but there’s a difference between helping others and letting others use you. Don’t be a footstool!
Listening to people complain/vent about the same things continually but they aren’t doing anything to change the things they’re complaining about. I refuse to continue hearing about the same issues over and over from people who aren’t even trying to change their situations. I’m done giving out advice to people who just do what they want anyway. (I’m not saying my advice is always right but don’t ask me for it if you aren’t even going to consider it. Please don’t waste my time!)
Giving a damn about what anyone says/thinks about me or how I live my life. This is the one right here!! I admit, I use to be a people-pleaser and truthfully it’s landed me in some pretty f*cked up situations.. but not anymore!! I’m living my life according to what I feel is best for me and whether it is pleasing to my God. At the end of the day, He’s the only one I really need to please.
So, here’s to 32. May it be full of continuous growth, blissful moments, more creativity (which will lead to more blog posts ☺️), and more positivity.
Until next time; Be YOU. Do YOU. LOVE YOU 💜
P.S. Scroll down to see what 32 looks like for me so far 😉
