Soul Circle
Hey friends!! I hope you all are flourishing and happy. If you aren’t, I pray that you will be soon!
I was watching Angie Martinez interview Usher for her podcast In Real Life and they mentioned the term “soul circle” which made me think— Everyone always talks about soulmates but what about the platonic relationships that breathe life into you?
I am blessed to have several people in my life that currently make up my soul circle. I say currently because a lot of people in our lives are seasonal and there are some people who were once in my soul circle that aren’t anymore.
My soul circle is constantly pushing me to be a better version of myself but they also love me a little extra when I need it (even when I don’t notice that I need it).
No matter how much of a loner you may think you are; People need people. I’m not saying you need a ton, you just need a couple good ones. People who are there for the highs, lows, and everything in between. When is the last time you evaluated your circle and were truly honest with yourself about it?
Here are some things that I’ve done to help build the amazing soul circle I have now:
Go to therapy— For all the naysayers, hear me out… Therapy teaches you SO much about yourself. In evaluating yourself you begin to change your behaviors and you will then notice the people around you change too (whether they change for the better, you remove them, or they remove themselves).
Put out what I want to receive— I believe in reaping what you sow so I’ve always tried to do this, but I am much more intentional about it now. If you are pouring into others, you will start to be surrounded by people who are pouring into you as well. Don’t do it for the reward though, do it because you genuinely care.
Set healthy boundaries— Those who are truly look after your wellbeing will respect them.
Prayer— Everything comes back to my faith. I pray constantly over the people that I love and care for (whether they know it or not), but I also know that they pray over me too.
Be a better friend to myself— Set the standard! We teach others how to treat us. Are you treating yourself with love, respect, and kindness? If so, your soul circle should be doing the same.
Are the people around you draining you or charging you up? How about vice versa? The people that are concerned about your spirit will always pour into you. That doesn’t mean that they aren’t allowed to tell you about yourself, but they will do it in a way that you know they are coming from a place of love.
To those in my soul circle (past & present)—
Thank you! You have loved me at some of my lowest points. You have given me space when needed and been there when needed. You have kept me encouraged. You have pushed me to continue using my voice, whether it be verbally or through my writing. You have taught me patience. You have cried and laughed with me. You have given me some of the best hugs (both physical and emotional). I love you all from the depths of my heart.
Until next time; Be YOU. Do YOU. LOVE YOU 💜
